“That’s how winning is done.”

You may have heard the monologue from the movie, “Rocky Balboa” which was released in 2006?  It goes like this:

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that.”

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If you are too highbrow for the Rocky series, I could understand that – sort of.  In each of the series, there is often some little nugget that inspires most of us.  The themes are generally, “David vs Goliath” or “Good vs Evil” or “Hard work pays off.”  In this series, it is the speech that Rocky gives to his son that is the inspiring moment of the film.  

Recently, a friend of mine, had a very bad day – one of many in her life.  Her story, while obviously unique, is similar to the rest of us – we have bad days that we would just rather forget about.  In listening to my friend, it was obvious that somehow, she thought her bad days were more severe and more frequent than everyone else’s.  She gave reasons as to why she felt her day ended so badly and reasons as to why she felt her life was so difficult.  As I listened, I felt I had to share a bit of Rocky “wisdom.”  I didn’t attempt the Rocky accent (thankfully) as I butchered the quote but the intention and essence was there.  

I feel, at times, life has thrown me some tough punches too – nobody knows about those ones.  I am sure you have had them too?  The hits leave some permanent scars but without them, we could never have learned resiliency or found depths of strength.  Be it that I am not a boxer, I don’t view life as a sport that is to be “won.”  I do view life is an opportunity for learning as we spend several decades riding the waves and experiences of being human.  I do agree with Rocky in that the most important part of life, it seems, is to get yourself back up, learn from the experience, and try to not make it a habit.

This one is for you K.