Often in my guided meditations, in particular during Ho’oponopono, I speak about the need to free ourselves from the anchors of our past so we can move forward. Last night, my wife and I were chatting about how when she thinks about an anchor, she views not as something holding us back but rather as something that tethers us to our true self. Like the ship that bobs up and down and is sometimes subjected to violent storms, the anchor, as she sees it, is the stabilizing force tying us to our unchanging self.
As usual, she makes a good point. The anchor of your life is only negative if you have it attached to the darkness of your past. Incorporating my wife’s view of the anchor with my own, I see that an ill-placed anchor keeps the boat in dangerous territory. An anchor that is attached to bad habits, patterns, or dark parts of your past is like sticking an anchor over top of a jagged shoal in a relentless sea of raging storms. It is this analogy of the anchor where my wife and I agree that sometimes you have to pull up the anchor and sail back to the waters of your true self. You were not born to constantly battle the raging sea that regularly threatens to sink your ship. You were born to be a boat that is sea worthy and can handle the storms of life but knows that calmer days will always come as you are anchored in a safe space with a deep sandy bottom.
In this analogy, we never really need to pull our anchor but rather set sail with a long rope that keeps us tied to the anchor of our true self. No matter how far we may sail, or what weather we may encounter, we always can pull in the rope and feel the familiar grounding.